I had an experience the other night that I’d like to share. This is especially for those of you who are in the very early days of sobriety. I remember feeling so anxious and awkward and anxiety-ridden, especially as it pertained to social events and dining out. Like my skin was on inside-out; unsure of myself and uncomfortable.
About eight weeks in, I celebrated a special birthday. My husband and I went to a fancy-schmancy restaurant for dinner. Once we were seated, the maitre d’ approached our table with two glasses of champagne and a big smile. Internally, I freaked out. What do I do? What do I say?
So I kind of blurted out, “I’m sorry – I don’t drink!”
You know that sound effect on TV – when the needle screeches across a record and everyone freezes? Well, that’s what the reaction was like. He stopped dead in his tracks, his smiled faded, he spun on his heel and whisked the offending beverages away.
So fast forward to this week. Another nice dinner out to celebrate our 37th anniversary. Different restaurant, same scenario. Waiter approaches our table with two champagne flutes, saying, “First things first. Happy anniversary!”
This time? I smiled graciously, thanked him, and as soon as he walked away, slid the glass over to my husband.
When the waiter came back, I ordered a club soda with lime and a splash of grenadine.
And everything was just lovely.
It gets so, SO much easier, friends!